This week has had a few cancellations in my schedule, and let me tell you, that bonus spare time has been A-MAZE-ING. The lesson this week is all about creating spaciousness.
When I have spaciousness, in my schedule, in my social life, in my spare time – then I’ve got spontaneity, freedom and, mostly importantly, creativity.
First, I’ve currently created my schedule so that I work Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday. That’s not too bad – having Monday and Friday wide open is one way to create space. But, there’s not a lot of spaciousness on those three days.
What I notice is that by the end of those days, I am draaaaaaawn out. There’s not a lot of me left. Up until this point, I’ve been staunchly opposed to working evenings. I don’t want to work them. But, now that I’m exploring outside of what is predictable, maybe I’ll find myself a little more nourished and sourced if I include breaks inside my days.
People want to help me and provide a lot of support, which is great. And, like every entrepreneur probably experiences, I have a desire to work through the problem on my own. I notice my resistance to people suggesting resources and places I could look, even after all of the work I’ve done with my own coach and on myself as part of my training. Our survival mechanisms are insidious things…
My job, as a coach and someone that is growing and pushing outside of my comfort zone, is to open up and allow that support. It’s another way to create spaciousness. What if I didn’t have to figure out everything on my own? I know, I know – if you’re an entrepreneur and you just read that, you probably want to tear my “Entrepreneur 4 Life” badge off my shirt, throw it on the ground and stomp on it.
But here’s the thing I’ve learned these last three months: the key to being an entrepreneur is not doing it all on your own; it’s asking for, receiving and allowing support. Doing it on your own is a bankrupt idea. It’s the tainted version of the american dream that people buy in to because it seems courageous and allows them to operate without delving outside of their comfort zone. There is something infinitely more powerful when someone is actually willing to get outside of their own ego and humbly ask for support.
Stoic statues make great monuments, but we don’t identify with them. We identify with humans. Fallible humans, working to overcome our limitations and create something outside of what is predictable.
So… what was I talking about?
Oh yah. Spaciousness.
How does that look for me? I don’t know yet exactly – and I have a feeling it will stay that way until I allow the support being offered.