This week’s lesson was a very simple one: ASK
One of my very good friends, Steve Parr, has the word tattooed on his wrist. When I asked him why, he told me that it had ultimately become something of a philosophy for him. Ask.
If you’re curious, ask. If you want something, ask. If you need support, ask. If you want someone to stop doing something, ask.
The theme this week with my clients (and therefore, presumably with me a well) has been that asking is too much. It makes you appear needy, weak, like a failure, or like you simply can’t manage on your own.
You know what? Maybe you can’t. I mean, you probably can manage on your own, but I would assert that you really can’t achieve everything you want in life without support. I’m not talking about the stuff that you’re allowing yourself to wish for because it’s “reasonable” (I hate that word).
I’m talking about the really juicy stuff. The stuff that you don’t really talk about until I’ve asked you “Yah, but what would you create if there was nothing in your way” two more times after the first.
It all starts from asking. Until you begin asking, you’re stalled. You can take the long route, and hopefully someone will provide you what you want or need without you having to ask for it in the first place, but where’s the power in that?
Powerful people make requests. Powerful people ask.
And I am committed to being powerful.
Susan Campbell’s book, Getting Real, is a must-read for anyone that wants to create more authenticity, connection and communication in their lives. One of my favourite pieces from it, tucked away in the corner of the page, reads
Continue to express yourself, even when it seems you have little chance of getting what you ask for.
We must ask for what we want — not because we might get it, but because it’s a genuine expression of who we are.
So that’s it for this week. A bi thank you to everyone that has been reading these posts up to this point. Please share with your friends and in your networks. It’s really hard to get exposure all by myself.