What an unusual week – no big ups or downs. Nothing terrifying. No moments of waking up in fright and remembering what I hadn’t done. Just opportunities to slow down and enjoy what was showing up.
Two times I’ve graduated from a post-secondary education, and both times, the same phenomenon has occurred. I’ve gotten to the end of the week, sat up on the weekend, and felt guilty for not working on something. There’s a sense that you should be doing something and that it’s wrong that I wasn’t.
Almost every student has experienced this process. The shift from a pattern of always trying to play catch-up to trying to remember that it’s okay to relax.
What I realize is that being an entrepreneur is a lot like making this journey, back and forth, over and over, on a much more frequent basis. Underneath it all, we are constantly working to develop the ability to simply be with whatever uncertainty shows up.
Lately, that’s meant recognizing when my fear shows up and just leaning right in to it. I got really embarrassed last week, and after allowing myself to feel that way, I became present to the fact that embarrassment, rather than being something to avoid, is actually a sign that I’m taking on something outside of my comfort zone. If it wasn’t embarrassed, I’d probably already be good at it, or already comfortable with what I was experiencing.
So in a lot of ways, it’s a bit confusing. We’re learning how to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. That almost doesn’t make sense.
I think a lot of us approach this from the belief that once we’ve developed enough, we stop feeling uncomfortable, but that’s not true. Discomfort is there as a sign that I’m taking on something different or new. As long as you’re alive, you’re capable of feeling discomfort.
As an entrepreneur or anyone else stepping in to possibility, it’s important to recognize that fear and discomfort is going to show up. If it hasn’t, it’s time to take another step.
The funny thing is that sometimes it’s as difficult to learn how to embrace the calm, as it is the storm.
Ah! There’s the lesson for this week.
To really love your life and your work as an entrepreneur, you have to learn how to love the calm as much as the storm. Entrepreneurship is no different than life. After every storm there is a calm, and after ever calm, there is a storm. Trust that it will all work out, and learn to love each part of it.