If you read through these posts from start to finish, you’ll notice that the photos on the side have gotten more and more relaxed as the year has gone on. In some ways, that’s kind of what has happened to me as well.
The doing hasn’t shifted — there’s still people to call, sessions to set up, coaching to do, minglers to go to and countless ways I can be of service. Oh, and of course, e-mail.
It’s my being that has changed. I’ve gotten a lot more relaxed about what there is to do. The intensity and necessity behind all the doing has lost a tremendous amount of its significance. That’s the part that coaching has made a difference in.
I’ve never needed help doing things. I’ve been a prodigious doer from day 1. I suspect that when I was in the womb, I had the best organized placenta of any womb. My mum was probably very proud.
The trouble with doing is that it’s often based in reaction to something external. Concerns that I won’t be successful, that I’ll fail, that I’ll drop below a minimum required number of clients and everything else you can dream up. That’s the magic that working with my coach has created for me. An ability to let go of the significance and the attachment to things working out, and really getting that it really will all work out, even if it doesn’t happen to work out the way I might want it to.
When I just put my attention and intention on doing what I love, the rest of it kind of falls away.
That’s not to say that those fears stop showing up. They don’t, because I’m taking on things that are deeply important and inspiring to me. In the face of that much possibility, its inevitable that fear is going to show up. What has happened instead is that the significance of the fear has dropped away. Getting scared that I’m going to fail doesn’t really mean that I’m going to fail. It just means that I’m scared that I’ll fail. Allow the emotion, be with it, and them move on to whats next when its passed through me.
(Even as a I type about that fear, I’m aware how funny it is that other people’s fears seem so obviously fabricated, while ours seem so obviously real. That’s the gift of altitude that working with a coach provides — being able to see our own stuff with the same altitude that we see others’.)
See, here’s the ultimate lesson from this. I’m living my purpose on this planet. I am here to inspire and empower people to live their lives as their highest and best selves. Even if I get a dead slump of no one hiring me for a year, I’m still going to coach. I can’t not do it. It’s simply too important to me. So from that place, it becomes easy to see that the rest will fall into place. Maybe not as quickly as I want it to, and maybe not looking exactly the way I want it to — but that’s okay too.
That’s part of life. If you want to control and try to prevent that… well, entrepreneurialism probably isn’t for you.