THE SEDUCTION OF BEING RIGHT

THE SEDUCTION OF BEING RIGHT

Most people assume that being right is a virtue. In many situations, it is. We want our surgeon to be right. We want our accountant to be right. We want the engineer designing a bridge to be right. Accuracy matters, and there are countless moments where being correct...
WHY RESISTANCE FEELS LIKE TRUTH

WHY RESISTANCE FEELS LIKE TRUTH

One of the reasons transformation can be so difficult is that resistance rarely appears in a form that allows us to recognize it easily.  Most people imagine resistance as hesitation, fear, procrastination, or an obvious unwillingness to change. Sometimes it appears...
THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LEARNING AND TRANSFORMATION

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN LEARNING AND TRANSFORMATION

One of the most common misunderstandings in leadership and personal development is the assumption that learning and transformation are the same thing. We often use the words interchangeably, as though acquiring a new insight and fundamentally changing the way we...
WHERE THE FORGE HAS BEEN, AND WHERE IT’S GOING NEXT

WHERE THE FORGE HAS BEEN, AND WHERE IT’S GOING NEXT

I want to let you all the way in on something, because the short version would do it a disservice. The Forge won’t be running next year — and it’s in a significant process of reinvention. To understand why, we have to start at the beginning — because the...
WHY SMART PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE

WHY SMART PEOPLE DO NOT CHANGE

One of the more confronting realities of transformational work is that understanding something does not necessarily change it.   Most people discover this through frustration. They understand that they need better boundaries, yet continue saying yes when they mean no....
YOU CANNOT SEE YOUR BLINDSPOTS

YOU CANNOT SEE YOUR BLINDSPOTS

The most destabilizing thing about blindspots is not that we have them. It’s that we experience them as reality. A blindspot does not feel like ignorance, but instead feels like clarity, like seeing the situation accurately, like being right. This is part of...