WHY UNDERSTANDING EMPATHY INTELLECTUALLY DOESN’T WORK

WHY UNDERSTANDING EMPATHY INTELLECTUALLY DOESN’T WORK

One of the things I do when I’m preparing to write an article is search and see what the current conversation around a particular topic looks like. When I search for Empathy, the vast majority of articles boil down to a definition of what empathy is. Some of...
SYMPATHY VS. EMPATHY

SYMPATHY VS. EMPATHY

Sympathy is the intellectual understanding of what it must be like to be having the experience I am currently having. Sympathy resides almost entirely in the realm of the intellectual, and consequently it is very safe. When you sympathize with me, I get the experience...
TRANSFORMATION REQUIRES SELFISH MOTIVATION

TRANSFORMATION REQUIRES SELFISH MOTIVATION

The thing that makes empathy a tricky concept for driven leaders is that it seems entirely driven by someone else’s needs. “Why should I bother empathizing here? It’s not me that’s struggling with the feeling. It’s them. And if I’m...
WHY LEADERS MUST BE DEVASTATED

WHY LEADERS MUST BE DEVASTATED

One of the challenges in the modern world is the overwhelming amount of empathetic suffering we are exposed to. The news cycle runs 24-7, and we are constantly being informed of more suffering that exists in the world. Suffering is a natural part of our existence, and...
THE BANDWIDTH OF INTIMACY – PART 4

THE BANDWIDTH OF INTIMACY – PART 4

This is part 4 in the Bandwidth of Intimacy series. You can read Part 1, Part 2 and Part 3 by clicking the linked titles in the comments. As you spend longer in relationship, you will inevitably have the bandwidth of intimacy between you and your partner clogged up...
THE LEADERSHIP CYCLE OF DISILLUSIONMENT

THE LEADERSHIP CYCLE OF DISILLUSIONMENT

I’ve noticed there’s a cycle that people tend to move through when they engage with most of the leaders, webinars, workshops and programs that are available in the leadership realm. This cycle exists because most of these approaches to developing...