THE REALITY OF DEVELOPING LEADERSHIP

THE REALITY OF DEVELOPING LEADERSHIP

The reality of developing leadership is considerably different than the fantasy of it. The fantasy is that you’ll then begin to develop people’s leadership and they’ll find it challenging, like learning how to play the piano can be challenging, but...
TRANSFORMATION IS DIFFERENT THAN GETTING BETTER

TRANSFORMATION IS DIFFERENT THAN GETTING BETTER

A lot of times, people come to a transformational container with the intention of getting better. This is a bit of a set-up, because transformation is not about getting better. It’s about transformation. Getting better and transformation are distinct from one...

GASLIGHTING IN THE REALM OF LEADERSHIP

Here’s a really simple definition of gaslighting: It is when I tell you to stop trusting yourself and what you are feeling, and instead listen to what I’m saying. It’s a pretty characteristic aspect of abuse, as if I can convince you to stop trusting...
IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A STRUGGLE

IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE A STRUGGLE

“The key to living isn’t getting rid of struggle, it’s finding good struggles.” That statement above is from Marie Forleo and Mark Manson talking together. They’re talking about a context shift — changing the way you’re relating to...
THE THING THAT YOU WANT IS AVAILABLE

THE THING THAT YOU WANT IS AVAILABLE

I get to spend a lot of my time with people discovering the self-imposed limitations they’ve put on themselves, and learning how to courageously step beyond those limitations. Watching myself and others do this crazy kind of work has revealed a few truths: 1....
SOMETHING IS WRONG HERE

SOMETHING IS WRONG HERE

In our journey of transformation, we are ultimately in a process of destroying our existing worldview — our story about how the world works, how it’s set up, what is appropriate, what is inappropriate, and so on. We’re destroying that worldview so that we...