We’re so genetically engineered to try to find reasons for things, we lose sight of our gifts entirely.
When someone acknowledges us for a gift we naturally bring into the world, rather than being able to trust the truth reflected to us, we look for reasons to justify that gift.
Imagine telling a rock named Reggie that it had a nice rockiness, and then friggin’ Reggie spends a bunch of time thinking about and providing reasons to justify its rockiness. “Well, I think that’s partially because I’m a basalt construction, and was made out of a lava flow. And also I think that’s because I have a lot of minerals from South Africa, which especially adds to my rockiness”.
No Reggie. You’re very nice and rocky because you’re a rock. That’s what you are.
Sure, all of those things Reggie the Rock just described are true, but they’re reflections of his underlying rockiness, rather than the reason the rock is rocky in the first place.
With a rock, especially one as nice and rocky as Reggie, it’s easier to see, but we humans are no different. When someone acknowledges our innate gifts, we get squirrelly. We go looking for reasons that justify and allow us to accept the truth. If we can find reasons, we can rest and accept the acknowledgment (because now it’s been justified). If we can’t, we dismiss the acknowledgment (“Oh, they’re just saying that because…”).
We mix up the cause and effect, using the effect to justify the cause, rather than the other way around, and it leaves us backwards and inside out. Unable to see or trust that we are the light being reflected to us, we go looking for our impact in the world to prove the greatness that we are. Unable to trust in our greatness, we become reliant on proof.
This is all fine and good — it just means that our ability to see who we truly are is limited. Kind of like the Sun only being able to be present to its greatness when it has a mirror in front of it to reflect back its light.
Fundamentally, we lose our ability to trust in our own greatness, and once that happens, we’re held victim to the circumstances around us. If the world around us currently reflects our gifts in a way we can receive, we feel good about ourselves. And if not, we don’t.
It’s a really subtle form of victimhood, leaving our sense of self at the effect of the way the world at large currently occurs.
What do you do about this?
You surround yourself with mirrors. People that reflect your light back to you, and can speak truth to power. Cultivate relationships and practice acknowledgment. (The more you practice acknowledging the greatness in others, and trusting what you see, the easier it becomes to trust when others reflect yours to you).
Work with people that see you for the greatness you are innately and can speak that into existence for you again and again.
And then trust them (rather than justifying them) over and over and over.
Being with and trusting in your own greatness isn’t free or easy. It takes practice, because this isn’t the way the world is set up. The world is set up to have you justify your existence and prove your worth.
Imagine a world where we all innately knew and trusted our worth, regardless of the way the outside world currently looked…
Start living that world into existence.
There is a magnetism to those that live from this place — and it’s time for you to join the party.