The hardest part about having negative thoughts related to ourselves isn’t releasing those thoughts.
It’s releasing the need to release those thoughts.
It’s human to wake up with shitty thoughts milling about your head.
Part of the beauty of humans is our insatiable desire to strive towards what’s next. To go beyond where we currently are, and into what could be.
On the good days, that looks like excitement about the path ahead and a vision for what could be.
On the bad days, that looks like malaise about how life currently appears, and what isn’t happening.
Those thoughts are par for the course.
The thing that messes us up is the tendency we have to make this internal dialog significant.
Like it really “means something” that we’re having these thoughts.
Once we make those kinds of thoughts significant, we have to do something about them. We try to pray them away, meditate them into nothingness, come over the top with more positive thinking, and so on.
But all of these approaches simply lend credibility to the thoughts themselves.
If you have a passing thought that you’re a zombie, you don’t expend a lot of energy trying to convince yourself that you are a normal healthy human.
You just nod your head and think “Man, you so cray. You’re not a zombie. That’s dumb.” And then you go back to your day.
But when we have a thought that cuts to the core of our fears about ourselves, it takes root.
The practise is to let go of the significance we attach to the thought, rather than attempting to let go of the thought itself.
It’s okay — we all have these thoughts. They don’t have to mean anything. Nod your head, acknowledge how cray you are, and get back to what’s next.