Lab
- TV
- Podcast
- Insights
Me
Work Together
Speaking
Results
Let’s Talk
Support

Select Page

Home / Shop

Shop

Showing the single result

The Client Creation Course
$1,000.00

Recent Posts

The Principles of Service
Will It Always Be Scary?
Mid-week Live Coaching: Bryan
As-needed vs. An Ongoing Commitment
How Do You 10X Your Life?
LEADERSHIP IS WALKING UPHILL
A LEADER’S RELATIONSHIP TO LOVE
TRYING OUT A DIFFERENT APPROACH
WORLDS COLLIDING
How to Use Responsibility to be Irresponsible

Essays on Leadership

For The Smartest Person In The Room

Get my best work on upleveling your game when you're the standard.

Email Address

Name

Follow Me On Instagram

adam_quiney

The Principles of Service ----- Most of us have

The Principles of Service

-----

Most of us have an innate desire to serve those around us. That's a really cool part about humans — for the most part, we want to make a positive difference for people. The trouble starts when we don't have service distinguished from everything else. Because we don't have service distinct from the other stuff we do, it tends to get collapsed with a variety of other things, and then rather than leaving someone in the impact of being served and supported, they're left in something else.

Here's a bunch of things we confuse and collapse with serving someone: giving advice, convincing, selling, debating, spamming, manipulating, asking them questions from our own agenda, telling (as in telling them what to do, say, or think), giving them answers, teaching, and SO... MUCH... MORE!

It's not even that any of these things is exclusive of truly serving someone. It's that serving someone becomes secondary to our own agenda, rather than being the primary function of what we're providing. As a result, we end up applying our own agenda, rather than getting over there with the other person and finding out what would really support them. And since we're coming from a pre-determined idea of what we think or know we should do, we tend to miss the mark. Rather than being left feeling served, the person on the other end of the conversation is left feeling unheard, ungotten, fixed, untrusted, etc.

At best, hopefully what the person needs is what we're providing, and when it lines up, great! The rest of the time... well, you've been in those conversations.

The principles of service formulate the foundation for ensuring that you are serving someone as a primary function, rather than ... something else.

Those people spamming you with their webinar offers on LinkedIn are a great example of this in action. When you reflect their impact back to them, they'll insist "I'm just trying to support and serve people". Which on some level is true, but serving you is secondary to their agenda to make as many invitations as possible, so as to ensure they get a sufficient number of people in their webinar, so as to ensure they get hired. And none of this is tran

Will It Always Be Scary? ----- Learning to be wi

I’m looking forward to kicking off the next roun

I’m looking forward to kicking off the next round of my ten-week course on Creating Clients as an effortless expression of yourself in the New Year.

When you join, you will leave this course with a new outlook on the process of creating clients, and having created the transformation required for you to embody this material, rather than simply holding more information in your head.

You can find more details here: https://adamquiney.com/clientcreation

As-needed vs. An Ongoing Commitment ----- Most o

As-needed vs. An Ongoing Commitment

-----

Most of the time, we relate to support as an as-needed kind of thing.

We seek out support when we need it, and then once we've overcome the thing we sought support for, we're good.

This is the way people relate to many of the support structures in their lives — marriage counselling (if we can just solve this hurdle in front of us...), therapeutic support (If I can just overcome my anxiety...), 12-step recovery work (If I can just get over my addiction...).

The underlying idea is often something like:

You're fine, until you're not. Then, get supported, until you're fine again. Carry on as before.

A different paradigm for being supported is to choose to make an ongoing commitment (and corresponding investment) to being supported. This way of showing up to your life is in opposition to seeking support as and when you need it.

When you make a commitment like this, one of the first things you'll come up against is that you have been living a life that, broadly speaking, don't require much support. Because of this fact, pretty quickly you'll fix most of the outstanding "problems" in your life, and then start showing up to your ongoing support conversations without any idea of what to work on.

The natural inclination at this point is to return to life as before. Things are good, so why rock the boat? Instead, the opportunity is to forge ahead, courageously, and begin living a life that requires more support. To live a life that is big enough that you cannot create it entirely on your own.

This often means setting and committing to goals that you have no idea how to make happen on your own. Results that you are committed to creating, but are currently only able to see all of the reasons why they are not achievable.

This kind of approach to life requires a higher degree of vulnerability. If you pursue a life that is outside what you're already reliable to create, you're going to fail sometimes. You're going to have to open yourself up to the possibility that someone else can support you to create more than you can on your own.

Continue reading at link in bio: @adam_quiney

10x’ing your income, life and personality (and y

10x’ing your income, life and personality (and your dog, and your clothing, and your jokes, and whatever else) is a popular concept that I think was pioneered by Grant Cardone. At least, when I search for 10x life, Grant Cardone’s advertisement is at the top of the results. Plus he looks rich, and so, according to the Worthington Law, I should listen to what he says (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ScJSeUIxydA).

10x’ing is ultimately about creating exponential growth in your life. Rather than go from one to two, go from one to ten. Then from ten to a hundred. And so on.

With a sexy marketing verb (10x’ing) behind its back, exponential growth is popular and vogue. Who wouldn’t want to 10x their lives? Like, why not?

We tend to relate to exponential growth the same way we relate to doing push-ups. It might require some effort and energy, but overall we’ll be glad we did it. We might not even enjoy it while we’re doing it, but we can just push through it, and then we’ll be done and we’ll have 10x’ed our pecs.

In practice, this isn’t actually how exponential growth occurs to us.

> > > Continue reading at link in bio: @adam_quiney

LEADERSHIP IS WALKING UPHILL We watched the Socia

LEADERSHIP IS WALKING UPHILL

We watched the Social Dilemma last night, like a lot of people have been doing. Now I’m writing about the movie, here on social media (the very subject of the documentary) — like a lot of people have been doing. The documentary is chilling and I would recommend watching it — but that’s not the point of this post.

One fact that struck me was that false information is six times more likely to be shared and propagated than are legitimate facts. Incendiary and inflammatory statements and posts are more likely to get shared than positive or neutral statements.

The upshot of all of this is the simple truth that my message is unlikely to go viral, and if you’re up to the same kind of game that I am, yours is unlikely too either. What I’m seeking to enroll you (and everyone else) in is the difficult work of facing where you are in life, and opening in the face of that truth.

> > > Continue reading at link in my bio: @adam_quiney

TV
Podcast
Insights
Me
Work Together
Speaking
Results
Let’s Talk
Support

Copyright 2018 – Adam Quiney – All Rights Reserved