I get to spend a lot of my time with people discovering the self-imposed limitations they’ve put on themselves, and learning how to courageously step beyond those limitations.
Watching myself and others do this crazy kind of work has revealed a few truths:
1. You don’t have to give up or accept things as they are.
Of course, it’s valuable to be able to find peace and joy with life exactly as it is, but that peace and joy does not have to come at the expense of your moving towards the life you desire next.
What you want is possible, even (especially) if you can’t see how to get there. The fact that you haven’t achieved it yet doesn’t mean it’s impossible — it just means you don’t have sufficient altitude to see what’s getting in your way
2. The closer you get to the threshold of your limitations, the harder things become
As you inch closer and closer to the self-imposed limitations of your own beliefs, those beliefs will scream louder and louder in your ear.
It’s a miracle that anyone creates breakthroughs, as the tension and pull back to what is known and safe increases exponentially the closer we get.
3. Quitting always feels right
Because of #2, quitting will always feel right in the moment. Bailing out leads us back to the life and world we know, and that is safe and understood.
The world on the other side of the breakthrough is unpredictable and unknown. We can’t reason or logic our way over there, because it lies outside of what our reason and logic can currently consider.
4. Fear doesn’t occur like fear
In the middle of confronting ourselves, our fear rarely looks like we expect it will.
Fear takes many faces, and serves us best (by keeping us in the status quo) when we don’t recognize it as fear.
Some of the ways I’ve seen fear show up include: very well-reasoned arguments for staying in place or quitting, a message from the divine, suffering through something rather than surrendering, working really hard, barely working at all, finding fault in others, hanging out in the experience of feeling wronged, and so on.
5. Our fear hijacks our intuition
In the midst of pushing beyond what we “already know”, our fear will use whatever tool it has at its disposal. The most pernicious of these is hijacking our intuition. The more afraid we are, the more difficult it becomes to discern between your fear and your intuition.
6. It’s worth it
Notwithstanding all of the above truths, the journey is worth it.
Transformational work is by far the hardest thing I’ve taken on in my life, and each time the rewards on the other side make it all worthwhile.
What you want is available.
A life of abundance, peace, prosperity, joy, laughter and all of the rest of what life has to offer, is available to you.
I live it, and I’ve seen others create this for themselves, time and again.
You can have it.