When we’re working with leadership, we’re in the practise of stepping outside of the world we know into the realm of the unknown.

Because this step will always involve a dose of fear, we naturally look to avoid ways of fully letting go. In effect we run some flavour of dipping our toe in the water, while keeping the bulk of body on dry land.

One of the ways we try to do this is by avoiding leaning into something ourselves, and instead, trusting something because it seems to be working for someone else.

This is kind of like saying “I don’t see, or I’m not willing to see, how this works, but it seems to work for you, so I’ll trust it”.

This approach is pernicious.

It allows me to hang out in “I’m pretty sure this doesn’t work”, but simultaneously give the impression that I’m going to give it my all.

If you want to really create transformation, you have to put all of yourself in it. You can’t commit half-way — that’s nonsensical.

You have to create within you whatever is necessary for you to step past “I don’t see how it will work” and instead, do the challenging work of enrolling yourself in the possibility of leaning forward.

That dialog with yourself might look like:

1. I want this to work, but a part of me doesn’t believe it will

2. What is the story that has me unwilling to fully believe this would work?

3. What does the part of me creating that story need, in order to release, surrender and lean in fully?

Only once you’ve honoured this part of you, can you actually take a step into a committed stand. Up until this point, there is a part of you that is getting stepped over in your process.

We are in such rushes to get where we think we need to be, that we aren’t really willing to slow down and spend time with the part of ourselves that is hung up.

Until you address this part, whatever you try to do is doomed to be sabotaged, as there is going to be a part of yourself that is holding back.

Commitment is not a game you can play 90%. You either commit, or you don’t.

On the brighter side, it’s worth considering that every time you slow down and look at this part of yourself holding back, you are moving yourself closer to the moment of commitment.

So let go of what is working for other people.

Instead, address what’s in the way for you.

And then, and only then, commit.